Saturday, July 18, 2009

Another thing you don't miss until it's gone

Sleep. I'm not getting any. It is affecting my thought process at this point. I have a hard time putting words together to form a sentence and I lose my train of thought in the middle of talking. My vision is getting blurry by noon and I'm grumpy. Part of this loss, or lack, is my fault. I do not go to bed at a decent hour. My excuse is that my night doesn't begin until Dillon is in bed. I don't want to immediately go to bed myself. I want to do things that I don't get to do all day because I'm chasing two little boys. Not only that, I want to spend time with my husband. For instance, last night we sat and watched a movie until 11pm. It is so nice to sit down with Bobby at the end of a long day and hang out with some popcorn and cokes. So, I will admit that part of the problem is me.

The other side of this sleep depravity is Dillon. When Ayden was a baby I would read or listen to other's complaints about their babies not sleeping well with a sympathetic ear. However, my days of a poorly sleeping baby were over. My worst sleeper was then eight years old, and bed time was no longer an issue. As I heard their stories of babies a year old waking up in the middle of the night, I was reminded how grateful I was for a little boy who liked to get 12-13 hours of sleep and took wonderful, consistent, long naps. Not only is he a great sleeper but he loves his bed and goes down happily and never tries (knock on wood) to get out of his bed. Then Dillon came. Dillon is an easier baby in most ways, no doubt. I will talk more about how he is doing in a couple of days since he'll be officially 8 months tomorrow. BUT... it's a big but, the kid does not sleep well. He'll nap. Usually for two hours. Sometimes not so much. Lately though, he will not sleep through the night. For example: he went to bed at 8pm, woke up scared at 10pm. He didn't need a bottle, he just needed comfort. Then he woke up at 3am. He insisted on a bottle. Then he woke up at 7:30am. He wasn't always this way. He was sleeping from 9-6:30, which was totally doable. I don't know what happened to change this. Is it because he's teething? or because he's still in our room? Or could it be a growth spurt and he's just super hungry? I have no idea. I do know this, I need to go to bed earlier because this is killing me over here!

Any suggestions from all the baby experts out there?


Jason and Lissa said...

I know exactly what you mean about losing your train of thought in the middle of a sentence! I was sure that after a few months Kiera would sleep through the night and I wouldn't be so fragmented. But Kiera is over a year old and she still wakes up two or three times a night. She's like Dillon--a great baby, but she just doesn't sleep. She takes two 45-minute naps a day, and that's the only time I have to get anything done.

Sorry I don't have the answer for you. I'm still looking for the answer myself! I know how hard it is, though--harder for you than me, I guess, since I only have one! Hang in there!

Holly said...

Well I'm no baby expert, that is FOR SURE!
But, maybe you should lay of the cokes, even if they are diet, and try something relaxing, like... reading... taking a bath and going to bed. ???
I'm sure that the both of you will find your niche'.

Stacey @ Tree, Root, and Twig said...

I'm like Lissa - lots of sympathy, but no good answer! Eli has been simply rotten in the sleep department, though it has gotten better over the last handful of months. I never expected it, after having 4 excellent sleepers. I felt robbed for a long time, and sometimes very bitter (just being honest). It's hard to go without sleep, as it messes with EVERYthing. I hope the next few months bring some changes to his schedule and you find some relief!!

Angie and Mike said...

Not a baby expert at all... but here are my thoughts. We put up with a lot less if they are in the room with us and let them "cry it out" longer when they are in the other room hoping they will comfort themselves. Sometimes they just need to cry.

He shouldn't need a bottle at night, maybe for your sanity you need to just let him cry it out for a while. (And feed him a little more in the day to make sure he doesn't need that bottle.) We had to give Owen some tough love about a month ago too, and things have gotten better. I won't lie the first week was awful he would cry for two hours straight, now anywhere from 2 min. to 30.

Sleeping issues are the hardest to deal with b/c you normally can't think straight to come up with a solution.

My vote, let him cry, if you have to, go in comfort him (maybe give him tylenol), don't pick him up and then leave the room. Each time waiting longer before going back in. Also, put him in the closet for bathroom, if he's not next to you you'll wait longer to go get him and give him more time to comfort himself. Good Luck!@

Grace said...

Hi! My mom says I was the good sleeper and peter never slept well, he still doesn't, but I can sleep anywhere :)!


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